nightmare brunette

We are used to seeing straight men’s goofy, unrealistic sexual fantasies. They are everywhere, all...

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:49:25 -0500

We are used to seeing straight men’s goofy, unrealistic sexual fantasies. They are everywhere, all the time. Beer commercials, magazines, Michael Bay movies, porn obviously. We’re used to having female characters flattened out, falsified, emptied out and filled up again with a boundless desire to satisfy men’s needs for no apparent reason. We’re used to the fact that straight male sexual fantasy scenarios (or, at least, sexual fantasies marketed to straight men: and, hey, a lot of dudes are buying them) are cartoonish, in poor taste, unsophisticated, weird.

But when girls do the exact same thing – when they prove themselves capable of the exact same sort of objectification, and the exact same goofiness or tackiness or unrealistic fantasy in the name of getting off – well, it freaks people out. It’s weird. Why are they acting like this?

— Really fucking fantastic article, even for those of you who, like me, are blissfully unaware of Twilight related anything given the way you select and edit the media you’re exposed to.

worldonfire: itsnotgood: (via thingssheloves)

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:19:47 -0500

worldonfire: itsnotgood: (via thingssheloves)

melissa: There is nothing more hookery: lunchtime lingerie...

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:04:01 -0500

melissa: There is nothing more hookery: lunchtime lingerie shopping.

From "A History of Origami" by Bob Hicok

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:47:51 -0500

i cried
by thinking of all the people
who’ve never broken a shop window, not the baker’s
window, the bead-seller’s,
who sells beads for purposes
i find hard to list: necklaces,
the hanging of strings of beads
in doorways, the owning of beads
just in case.

breaking a shop window with a piece of shale
the size of my heart, a piece of shale
on which i’ve drawn my heart, not my actual heart
but my feelings of my heart,
since i’ve never seen my heart,
would set something free.

i don’t know what that something is
but it would be free. […]

it would be free and look like a bird, an actual bird
or a dollar folded into a bird, a dollar bird
in a dollar boat.

which is to say
i believe origami arrives
when we need it most.

i can’t prove this but i can’t prove
you’re a good person though i suspect
you’re a good person.

quickienewyork: ovimeo: intrysting: (via djangomango)

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:32:48 -0500

quickienewyork: ovimeo: intrysting: (via djangomango)

lavonne:Love.

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:17:50 -0500

lavonne:Love.

Grandmaster Flash — The Message

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:01:58 -0500

Grandmaster Flash — The Message

I wrote something terrible. And sharing it feels like stabbing my wrists and then walking into a...

Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:26:45 -0500

I wrote something terrible. And sharing it feels like stabbing my wrists and then walking into a crowd with the blood running. I guess that deserves some reflection.

smuttynakedness: (via misselise)

Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:17:49 -0500

smuttynakedness: (via misselise)

eekeek: (via lacoliflor)

Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:02:53 -0500

eekeek: (via lacoliflor)

"I weighed the words over and over, and my heart caught fire again. If you only knew what is really..."

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:49:49 -0500

“I weighed the words over and over, and my heart caught fire again. If you only knew what is really going on in this country. I was now sure that the most complicated thing going on in the country had to do with what lay between Marguerite’s legs.”

- Ismail Kadare, “The Albanian Writers’ Union As Mirrored By A Woman”

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Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:33:49 -0500

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quickienewyork: sexisnottheenemy: (via wonderlandcode831)

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:18:49 -0500

quickienewyork: sexisnottheenemy: (via wonderlandcode831)

In Istanbul, grown men walk together with their elbows linked....

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:03:50 -0500

In Istanbul, grown men walk together with their elbows linked. Schoolboys sit with a draped arm forgotten around the other’s shoulders. College students would ruffle one another’s hair. It was deeply affecting to be in the midst of a culture where men were allowed to touch one another in a way that was not sexual and not violent but simply fraternal.

jonathanclassof99: blatino: Buddies.

"Men and women want the same things from sex—closeness, pleasure, validation, a sense of adequacy...."

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:47:49 -0500

“Men and women want the same things from sex—closeness, pleasure, validation, a sense of adequacy. Sexually, men and women are distressed about the same things—performance anxiety, insufficient information, not feeling attractive enough, difficulties communicating honestly.
And there’s no point in understanding “men” or “women” (like such a thing is possible!), since no one has sex with “men” or “women.” We have sex with George or Maria or even both, but we don’t have sex with some abstract group of 100 million people. For better sex, learn more about the person(s) you’re with, not “men” or “women”.”

- When “Self-Help” is Part of the Problem | CarnalNation

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(via sexartandpolitics)

nakedness: forgivenbutnotforgotten:fuckyeahsexytime:booyoshi:yosh...

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:32:51 -0500

nakedness: forgivenbutnotforgotten:fuckyeahsexytime:booyoshi:yoshia:tumblarity-please:derekisme

sexisnottheenemy: fuckyeahsodomites: tatcha: stec13: via hawt

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:17:48 -0500

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Raphael Neal

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:02:00 -0500

Raphael Neal

The Constantines feat. Fiest — Islands in the Stream (BeeGees...

Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:59:49 -0500

The Constantines feat. Fiest — Islands in the Stream (BeeGees cover)

The Art of Untameablity

Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:44:00 -0500

Brian has a new book out that includes a quote from me. This seems pretty fitting given that I was recently told, though not by him: “Baby, you are an untameable bitch.”

You should buy it because it will be helpful in all sorts of circumstances, or so I imagine.