In Istanbul, grown men walk together with their elbows linked. Schoolboys sit with a draped arm forgotten around the other’s shoulders. College students would ruffle one another’s hair. It was deeply affecting to be in the midst of a culture where men were allowed to touch one another in a way that was not sexual and not violent but simply fraternal.
jonathanclassof99: blatino: Buddies.
Men and women want the same things from sex—closeness, pleasure, validation, a sense of adequacy. Sexually, men and women are distressed about the same things—performance anxiety, insufficient information, not feeling attractive enough, difficulties communicating honestly.
And there’s no point in understanding “men” or “women” (like such a thing is possible!), since no one has sex with “men” or “women.” We have sex with George or Maria or even both, but we don’t have sex with some abstract group of 100 million people. For better sex, learn more about the person(s) you’re with, not “men” or “women”.
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Raphael Neal
The Constantines feat. Fiest — Islands in the Stream (BeeGees cover)
But they all knew about Beauvoir, and Beauvoir was Satre’s standing excuse: the Beaver wouldn’t like it; he had to spend more time with the Beaver. And the Beaver is the great mystery at the center of the whole system.
— Louis Menand, in an essay that’s earned him at least two complimentary blow jobs from yours truly. (The other gem: “He had the kind of aggressive male ugliness that can be charismatic, and he wisely refrained from disguising it.”)
